does charley have a 'personal relationship' with "you know who" ?
don't you hate it when you go to visit relatives and unbeknownst to you they try and fix you up with "a nice girl" ...a nice girl who as soon as you meet her , you both instantly figure out that :
1.someone else , the "fixer", has been playing cupid
2. you as one of the two "fixees" probably wouldn't give each other more than a cursory "hi and goodbye" if you two had met on your own...
But you were raised to be a gentleman , so as clumsy as you feel under the weight of all the probing ,expectant eyes at the time , you still try to be polite and crack the ice --make interesting chit-chat and entertaining smalltalk , even though you know there's no way there could be "love connection " chemistry between you.
there are so many women alone with no man in their lives you feel really sad for all the nice ones . a female buddy of mine is a member of a few on-line seek , greet and meet sites for single folks ...including the one she introduced me to , where i now have a profile --but of course , no pic (seems there are an abundance of these sites on the net ) ,and while looking at some of the women's pictures and profiles there, i was struck by how many of the black women there had replied "any" as their answer to which ethnicity of man they were looking for...
At first i was a bit disappointed --assuming that these women did not have enough pride in their own group to consciously desire to maintain and replicate it...But my friend who has travelled extensively in the US , was quick to correct me by saying that it's likely that many of these women would prefer a black man over other ethnicities that they share much less in common with..."if they could only find one...Time is running out on them and rather than continue to be alone , they will accept ANY man rather than dry up while waiting for a black man to come along".
...i have heard so many sisters bitterly repeat this complaint over and over again that i can't dismiss it as just a matter of sisters being overly picky towards available brothers...many of the profiles i looked at were of black women either fast approaching 40 , or significantly past that crucial estrogen milestone and had never been married...
with awareness of this slim pickings dilemma that so many women complain of facing and also feeling quite badly --awkwardly at a loss about how to break the thick tension of this "fixup" situation during my visit with relatives... despite my attempts at courteous chatter with the woman ---submiting finally to my irrepressible nature , i spontaneously blurted out , "You seem like a really , really nice woman, but i have a sneaking suspicion that somebody around here may actually be trying to fix us up...as if they didn't know about my life long fetish for bad girls in skimpy black leather"
...It worked ...perhaps too well... she giggled at my silly little joke and with the tension then dissolving , she spent the next two hours informing me in much greater detail than i really cared to hear , of her work with her church and her "personal relationship" with some spanish guy named "jesus"...
"You mean 'horus' like in the egyptian mystery systems ?" i asked.
"No", she quickly corrected , "i mean J-e-e-Z-u-s ."
"oh , gee "Zeus', that guy who the greeks thought lived up on mount olympus" , i playfully teased her accenting of the name's second syllable --a peculiar pronunciation habit of black americans.
"Man , you know i mean 'J-E-E-E--ZHUS'-- my lord and savior" , and she was off into her 'sales pitch' at full speed...
...Did i pick the wrong time for a vacation or what?
"fixups" and rain-rain everywhere not a dry spot anywhere...it rained so much it wasn't funny. now its hurricane "charley" raising havoc on the eastern region...what's up with the weather anyway?
hope it wasn't me that pissed "you know who" off ...
But it does seem like one year it's heat alerts and droughts , the next summer there's so much rain falling that old noah himself would buy flood insurance . the winters are either as mild as autumn with days in the midst of december/january as warm as indian summer or the temps are sub-subzero and snow as high as the side-view mirrors on your car...
lots been happening news-wise while i was away from everything and not regularly clicking that little computer "deskrat" as usual...
soon as i catch some r-N-r in order to rest up from my r-N-r ..i'll get back to "work"..."lord willing"...
1.someone else , the "fixer", has been playing cupid
2. you as one of the two "fixees" probably wouldn't give each other more than a cursory "hi and goodbye" if you two had met on your own...
But you were raised to be a gentleman , so as clumsy as you feel under the weight of all the probing ,expectant eyes at the time , you still try to be polite and crack the ice --make interesting chit-chat and entertaining smalltalk , even though you know there's no way there could be "love connection " chemistry between you.
there are so many women alone with no man in their lives you feel really sad for all the nice ones . a female buddy of mine is a member of a few on-line seek , greet and meet sites for single folks ...including the one she introduced me to , where i now have a profile --but of course , no pic (seems there are an abundance of these sites on the net ) ,and while looking at some of the women's pictures and profiles there, i was struck by how many of the black women there had replied "any" as their answer to which ethnicity of man they were looking for...
At first i was a bit disappointed --assuming that these women did not have enough pride in their own group to consciously desire to maintain and replicate it...But my friend who has travelled extensively in the US , was quick to correct me by saying that it's likely that many of these women would prefer a black man over other ethnicities that they share much less in common with..."if they could only find one...Time is running out on them and rather than continue to be alone , they will accept ANY man rather than dry up while waiting for a black man to come along".
...i have heard so many sisters bitterly repeat this complaint over and over again that i can't dismiss it as just a matter of sisters being overly picky towards available brothers...many of the profiles i looked at were of black women either fast approaching 40 , or significantly past that crucial estrogen milestone and had never been married...
with awareness of this slim pickings dilemma that so many women complain of facing and also feeling quite badly --awkwardly at a loss about how to break the thick tension of this "fixup" situation during my visit with relatives... despite my attempts at courteous chatter with the woman ---submiting finally to my irrepressible nature , i spontaneously blurted out , "You seem like a really , really nice woman, but i have a sneaking suspicion that somebody around here may actually be trying to fix us up...as if they didn't know about my life long fetish for bad girls in skimpy black leather"
...It worked ...perhaps too well... she giggled at my silly little joke and with the tension then dissolving , she spent the next two hours informing me in much greater detail than i really cared to hear , of her work with her church and her "personal relationship" with some spanish guy named "jesus"...
"You mean 'horus' like in the egyptian mystery systems ?" i asked.
"No", she quickly corrected , "i mean J-e-e-Z-u-s ."
"oh , gee "Zeus', that guy who the greeks thought lived up on mount olympus" , i playfully teased her accenting of the name's second syllable --a peculiar pronunciation habit of black americans.
"Man , you know i mean 'J-E-E-E--ZHUS'-- my lord and savior" , and she was off into her 'sales pitch' at full speed...
...Did i pick the wrong time for a vacation or what?
"fixups" and rain-rain everywhere not a dry spot anywhere...it rained so much it wasn't funny. now its hurricane "charley" raising havoc on the eastern region...what's up with the weather anyway?
hope it wasn't me that pissed "you know who" off ...
But it does seem like one year it's heat alerts and droughts , the next summer there's so much rain falling that old noah himself would buy flood insurance . the winters are either as mild as autumn with days in the midst of december/january as warm as indian summer or the temps are sub-subzero and snow as high as the side-view mirrors on your car...
lots been happening news-wise while i was away from everything and not regularly clicking that little computer "deskrat" as usual...
soon as i catch some r-N-r in order to rest up from my r-N-r ..i'll get back to "work"..."lord willing"...
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